Parental Alienation =================== What is parental alienation? ---------------------------- Parental alienation describes a situation where a child has been coerced, manipulated, or otherwise pressurised to align themselves to one parent against the other. The child is essentially 'turned' against one parent by the other. It can be devastating for the parent affected - and often their wider family too. There is consensus that alienating behaviours sit on a spectrum from mild to severe, with varying impacts. Examples of such behaviour might include some or all of the following: - Denigrating the other parent in front of the child; - Preventing the child from talking about the other parent; - Not passing on letters, cards, or gifts from the child to the other parent; - Not passing on telephone messages, letters, birthday or Christmas cards and gifts from the other parent to the child; - Promoting the idea that the other parent does not love them and is not interested in them; - Limiting contact; - Giving the impression that the child must choose between parents or be punished, by way of threats or by withdrawing love and attention; - Seeking to exclude the other parent from important activities e.g. school events; - Making the child scared of the other parent. Parental alienation is often not obvious or clear cut. Behaviours can be deliberate, malicious, and obvious but they can also be subtle and therefore hard for an outsider - including the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service ('CAFCASS') - to spot. **If you need advice or representation on any Children Law matters, click below for a free initial consultation with one of our expert Children solicitors.** [BOOK CONSULTATION](https://vardags.com/contact "BOOK CONSULTATION") ### The impact of Parental Alienation on Children The impact of parental alienation on children has been highlighted by CAFCASS as abusive and highly damaging. Indeed, the Chief Executive said, "I think the way you treat your children after a relationship has broken up is just as powerful a public health issue as smoking or drinking." We are now becoming horribly familiar with the conclusions of research showing the profound and long-lasting impact on children growing up surrounded by high levels of unresolved conflict. Everything from their neurological and social development and their success in education, in personal relationships and in work can be jeopardised by long term exposure to unresolved conflict. More immediately we know the significant distress and anxiety experienced by children witnessing their parents arguing endlessly, particularly when they are aware those arguments are centred around themselves. In the light of this it is unsurprising that Mrs Justice Parker commented in 2013 on the damage parental alienation can cause saying, "I regard parental manipulation of children, of which I distressingly see an enormous amount, as exceptionally harmful. It distorts the child's relationship not only with the parent but with the outside world." ### The approach of the Court and CAFCASS There has been increasing judicial emphasis in recent years on hearing and exploring the 'wishes and feelings' and the 'voice' of the child when the court is determining issues concerning the welfare of children. Further, when faced with a child who expresses resistance to contact, courts are alert to the possibility of parental alienation at play. However more could be done to prevent and deter it. The Child Impact Assessment Framework ('CIAF') was therefore a welcome development, designed to help CAFCASS officers assess how children may experience parental separation, particularly in cases involving high levels of conflict. The framework contains four guides to support Family Court Advisers in assessing different case factors within private children law cases as follows: 1. Domestic Abuse - where children have been harmed directly or indirectly, for example, from the impact of coercive control; 2. Conflict which is harmful to the Child - such as a long running court case or mutual hostility between parents which can become intolerable for the child; 3. Child refusal or resistance to spending time with one of their parents which may be due to a range of justified reasons or could be an indicator of the harm caused when the child has been alienated by one parent against the other for no good reason (parental alienation); 4. Other forms of harmful parenting - this includes factors like substance misuse or parental mental health difficulties where these are assessed as harmful to the child. Quite rightly, assessments under the framework start and end with the question, 'What is happening for this child?'. The Framework should enable more consistent and balanced reporting to the court when CAFCASS are advising as to what is in a child's best interests. Given the weight the court places on the recommendations made by CAFCASS when deciding what orders to make, when the CIAF was launched it was envisaged that it would play a significant future role in improving outcomes for children caught in the middle of conflict. ### Looking to the future When speaking of the 2017 report from the Nuffield Foundation entitled 'Finding Fault', Lady Butler-Sloss observed, "If the parents have a corrosive end to their marriage, they are quite unable sometimes to recognise that a child loves both parents. What children want is for parents to part amicably so they can have a life with both parents." As is so often the case, education is key in trying to make the alienating parent understand the harm they are doing to their child. However, when education is not working then the courts need to step in to protect children. Some countries have already gone further in recognising the problem of parental alienation. For example, in many parts of the United States, Canada and South Africa, third parties are often put in place to help restore relationships where children have been alienated from one parent. In other countries, punishments for parental alienation range from fines to prison sentences. Here in England, it is heartening that the new CIAF initiative is underway and that the Court, CAFCASS officers, and independent social workers are now becoming increasingly alive as to how parental alienation issues manifest in the wishes and feelings of a conflicted child. This expertise, together with robust judicial control and case management, will remain key to ensuring that relevant issues at the heart of each case are explored and the reality of the situation for each child is understood. The information on this website is intended as a guide and does not constitute legal advice. 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