When is adultery not adultery? ============================== ![When is adultery not adultery?](https://vardags.com/images/pictures/_360/5b8fa068a0a5aa6734493f634acb5987.jpeg)BBC Radio 4 tackled the issue of adultery and divorce on its iPM programme this weekend. Presenting a case study from a listener who had discovered, to her dismay, that she was not able to divorce her husband for his affairs with other men by citing adultery, it threw into sharp relief the outdated view of sexuality and relationships that the current system perpetuates. The Matrimonial Causes Act 1973 established the current five reasons for divorce, which are: 1. Adultery 2. Unreasonable behaviour 3. Desertion (for two years) 4. Separation, for a mutually agreed divorce (two years) 5. Separation, for a contested divorce (five years) The first of those might initially seem the most straightforward, but not as iPM's featured listener, 'Anna', discovered. Having been married for 20 years, she discovered quite early on in the marriage that something was not quite right. She eventually discovered that her husband was gay and was in fact carrying on several affairs with other men - around ten - to be exact. However, despite the fact that her husband had most certainly been unfaithful, she could not cite adultery as grounds for divorce because he was not having a heterosexual affair. The definition of 'adultery' includes heterosexual intercourse only. This seems clearly ridiculous, but presents two possible routes for change. One is that adultery remains in place as one of the five reasons, but the legal definition is extended to include other types of intimacy besides heterosexual relations or, perhaps more reasonably, adultery is simply scrapped altogether as a reason for the irretrievable breakdown of marriage. There's evidence that we're already moving beyond 'adultery' as the reason of choice. Statistics show that nearly half (47%) of divorces in England and Wales are petitioned citing unreasonable behaviour, with adultery being cited in a mere 15% of cases. It should be noted that the iPM interview suggested that citing unreasonable behaviour represented a 'no-fault'option for those wanting a divorce. This is in fact not true: citing unreasonable behaviour in a divorce petition is most definitely a fault-based reason. Further BBC coverage of this issue can be read [here](https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-33718943). "Ayesha Vardag - Britain's top divorce lawyer." ![The Huffington Post](https://vardags.com/images/logo/huffpost.png) "Ayesha Vardag - Woman of the Year"![GG2](https://vardags.com/images/logo/gg2-3.png) "Leading, Magic Circle law firm."Mr Justice Coleridge "A handful of firms dominate the so-called 'glamour' end of the market ... Vardags"The Times "One of the best divorce lawyers in the country"Marie Claire "Ayesha Vardag - 'diva of divorce' for the world's super rich" ![BBC](https://vardags.com/images/logo/bbc.png) "Dr Stephen Bence is a financial genius."Lewis Marks KC "Ayesha Vardag - the Queen of divorce"Daily Mail "Vardags brilliantly argued my case to a resounding victory"Pauline Chai (client) "Britain's top divorce lawyer" ![The Telegraph](https://vardags.com/images/logo/telegraph.png) More Divorce news ----------------- [Greece signed up to Rome III regulation on divorce law](https://vardags.com/family-law/greece-signed-up-to-rome-iii-regulation-on-divorce-law "Greece signed up to Rome III regulation on divorce law") [Kermit and Miss Piggy announce split](https://vardags.com/family-law/kermit-miss-piggy-announce-split "Kermit and Miss Piggy announce split") [When is adultery not adultery?](https://vardags.com/family-law/when-is-adultery-not-adultery "When is adultery not adultery?") ['For Laura': Half-of-everything divorce stunt a hoax](https://vardags.com/family-law/for-laura-divorce-hoax "For Laura: Half-of-everything divorce stunt a hoax") [British divorcee jailed for blackmailing ex-wife over 'revenge porn'](https://vardags.com/family-law/british-divorcee-jailed-blackmailing-ex-wife-revenge-porn "British divorcee jailed for blackmailing ex-wife over 'revenge porn'")