Ayesha Vardag reveals the little things that matter during a divorce in The Lady magazine ========================================================================================= Ayesha Vardag spoke to *The Lady* about the sometimes surprising things which create conflict in divorce. She explained to the magazine that "*From my years working with divorcing couples, I've learned that it is often the smaller things that drive couples to distraction during the heartbreaking process of separating lives*." Ayesha explained that for many clients, divorce can see couples fighting not only pets and family heirlooms, but also over who keeps their circle of friends. She added "*During the interim phases there can be bitterly fought applications to get hold of musical instruments, fur coats, jewellery and the like*." Her experience in some of the most high value and complex divorce cases allows her to understand the motives behind this behaviour. She added "*Divorcees will often fixate on seemingly 'little things' in an attempt to displace the wider pain of what they're going through. They want to cry out that they're in pain and angry with their husband or wife for leaving them, having an affair or otherwise behaving in such a way as to make the marriage break down. They are often terrified that life as they know it is gone forever and they may never feel loved or happy again (which, I am pleased to say, is rarely borne out*)." Ayesha concluded with a warning, advising couples that "*It's important for both parties to a divorce to acknowledge their own fear and pain and anger but not lose perspective on what is and is not important*." "A handful of firms dominate the so-called 'glamour' end of the market ... Vardags"![The Times](https://vardags.com/it-en/images/logo/thetimeslogo_white.png) "Ayesha Vardag - 'diva of divorce' for the world's super rich" ![BBC](https://vardags.com/it-en/images/logo/bbc.png) "Ayesha Vardag - the Queen of divorce"![The Daily Mail](https://vardags.com/it-en/images/logo/dailymaillogo_white.png) "Celebrity divorce lawyer" ![HELLO Magazine](https://vardags.com/it-en/images/logo/hello_logo_2.png) "Ayesha Vardag, a divorce lawyer widely regarded as one of the world's best" ![METRO](https://vardags.com/it-en/images/logo/whitelogo_metro_mag.png) "Vardags are both the Rolls Royce and the Ferrari of the family law world. The firm's strength and ability is remarkable. They take on unwinnable cases and win, they fight the unfightable and succeed and they relish the most complex and difficult of cases" ![Legal500](https://vardags.com/it-en/images/logo/legal-500.png) "A formidably strong family law firm which acts in the most high-profile cases of the country"![Legal500](https://vardags.com/it-en/images/logo/legal-500.png) "Vardags rightly attracts the best work in the field with ultra-high-net-worth clients and complex cases" ![Legal500](https://vardags.com/it-en/images/logo/legal-500.png) "Vardags attracts the very best quality of lawyers who want to get stuck into high asset value and complicated work, which it offers in volumes which I think is unrivalled by other firms" ![Legal500](https://vardags.com/it-en/images/logo/legal-500.png) "They attract such high-quality work because of their commitment to leaving no stone unturned, providing a gold standard service and thinking strategically at every turn" ![Legal500](https://vardags.com/it-en/images/logo/legal-500.png) More Divorce news ----------------- [What's next for English divorce law following Owens ruling](https://vardags.com/it-en/posts/whats-next-for-english-divorce-law "Whats next for English divorce law following Owens ruling") [Ayesha Vardag on the possibility of William and Kate signing a prenup](https://vardags.com/it-en/posts/ayesha-vardag-william-kate-prenup "Ayesha Vardag on the possibility of William and Kate signing a prenup") [Ayesha Vardag reveals the little things that matter during a divorce in The Lady magazine](https://vardags.com/it-en/posts/ayesha-vardag-the-lady-things-matter-divorce "Ayesha Vardag reveals the little things that matter during a divorce in The Lady magazine") [Ayesha Vardag on whether sperm could be considered a marital asset](https://vardags.com/it-en/posts/ayesha-vardag-could-sperm-be-marital-asset "Ayesha Vardag on whether sperm could be considered a marital asset") [TomKat Divorce: Ayesha Vardag talks to the Daily Telegraph](https://vardags.com/it-en/posts/tomkat-divorce-ayesha-talks "TomKat Divorce: Ayesha Vardag talks to the Daily Telegraph")