When is adultery not adultery?

    1. Adultery
    2. Unreasonable behaviour
    3. Desertion (for two years)
    4. Separation, for a mutually agreed divorce (two years)
    5. Separation, for a contested divorce (five years)

    The first of those might initially seem the most straightforward, but not as iPM’s featured listener, ‘Anna’, discovered. Having been married for 20 years, she discovered quite early on in the marriage that something was not quite right. She eventually discovered that her husband was gay and was in fact carrying on several affairs with other men – around ten – to be exact.

    However, despite the fact that her husband had most certainly been unfaithful, she could not cite adultery as grounds for divorce because he was not having a heterosexual affair. The definition of ‘adultery’ includes heterosexual intercourse only.

    This seems clearly ridiculous, but presents two possible routes for change. One is that adultery remains in place as one of the five reasons, but the legal definition is extended to include other types of intimacy besides heterosexual relations or, perhaps more reasonably, adultery is simply scrapped altogether as a reason for the irretrievable breakdown of marriage.

    There’s evidence that we’re already moving beyond ‘adultery’ as the reason of choice. Statistics show that nearly half (47%) of divorces in England and Wales are petitioned citing unreasonable behaviour, with adultery being cited in a mere 15% of cases.

    It should be noted that the iPM interview suggested that citing unreasonable behaviour represented a ‘no-fault’ option for those wanting a divorce. This is in fact not true: citing unreasonable behaviour in a divorce petition is most definitely a fault-based reason.

    Further BBC coverage of this issue can be read here.