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Does love Trump politics? Brexit, the US election and divorce

Does love Trump politics? Brexit, the US election and divorce

In July, a despairing Remainer wrote to The Guardian agony aunt Mariella Frostrup regarding the ruinous effect of the EU referendum on her relationship. The writer expressed having “never felt so isolated in..[her]…life” after her partner voted to leave the European Union, and was at a loss as to how to resolve the “catastrophic situation”.

Although, as Ms Frostrup astutely remarks, the couple’s differences appear to predate Brexit, it seems that the letter-writer is not alone in experiencing relationship problems over this year’s highly divisive referendum.

Last week, chair of Resolution Nigel Shepherd warned that Brexit could be the breaking point for couples whose marriages are on the rocks. Quoted in The Guardian, Mr Shepherd claimed that Resolution, the largest family law organisation in the UK, “have come across a number of families in this country [who are splitting up] because one them voted differently [to the other] in the referendum.”

Mr Shepherd acknowledged that, while it’s “unlikely” for Brexit to be the “sole reason” for divorce, for many “it was the last straw that made them think ‘we are really incompatible’.”

But it’s not just in the UK that couples are struggling to bridge a political chasm -2016 has been a particularly trying year for those whose political views diverge from their spouse’s across the pond. I refer, of course, to the US presidential election.

Back in August, The New York Times profiled two couples whose marriages were thrown into turmoil after it emerged that one party would be voting for Donald Trump, whilst the other plumped for Hillary Clinton. Dr Kerry Maguire, of Massachusetts, went so far as to issue her husband an ultimatum—if he voted for Trump, she would divorce him and move to Canada.

In both profiles, it is the wife who is opposed to Trump. This is perhaps unsurprising, given the plethora of controversial remarks that the president-elect has made about women in the run-up to the election. Although Trump did win over the majority of women voters, he only gained the vote of 45 percent of college-educated white women, compared to 51 percent who voted for Clinton. This is a reversal from 2012, when Mitt Romney secured 52 percent of the votes of college-educated white women, compared to Barack Obama’s 46 percent. When it came to women of colour, Trump performed particularly poorly, with exit poll data indicating that 94 percent of black women and 68 percent of Hispanic women voted for Clinton.

Ipsos Public Affairs found that, in a online poll of 1,249 adults who have been in a relationship of at least four years, men voting for Trump were the least confident that their spouses would vote the same. Of course, political differences within a marriage don’t necessarily lead to divorce. This election season, one Florida-based couple even found humour in their divergent views, and erected two campaign signs on their lawn, one for Trump and one for Clinton, separated by a sign reading “divorce sale”. Predictably, the image went viral and the couple revealed that they had no intention of divorcing—the signs were simply a light-hearted means of defusing tension in a tumultuous political climate.

This pair of pranksters may be an exception, though. Poll data spanning five decades shows that people in the USA have become increasing distressed about the prospect of interparty marriage. In 1960, when asked whether they would be upset if their child married  a supporter of the opposing political party, just 5 percent of Republican respondents and 4 percent of Democrats answered in the affirmative. However, when the same question was posited in 2008, 27 percent of Republicans and 20 percent of Democrats said they would be displeased if their son or daughter married a member of the opposition. In 2010, this rose to 49 percent of Republicans, and 33 percent of Democrats.

A 2014 study by researchers from Princeton and Stanford posited that the polarisation of the American electorate has “dramatically increased”, with partisanship having become a “social divide”, as well as a political one. To test this, the researchers conducted an implicit association test, which revealed that Democrats exhibit an automatic bias against Republicans, and vice versa. The incorporation of political affiliation as a core component of social identity could mean that individuals are less likely to marry those who identify differently politically in the first place, and that when political divisions do arise within a marriage, the ramifications on the relationship are severe.

So, how to avoid politics driving a wedge between yourself and your spouse? Perhaps one could heed the advice of American founding father Benjamin Franklin: “Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterwards.”

Maire Connor
Maire graduated from Queen Mary, University of London with a first-class BA in Comparative Literature and Film Studies in 2014. During her final year at university, she was awarded the Principal’s Prize.

She then secured a graduate internship with youth creative writing platform Movellas, where she conjured up articles to help aspiring teenage writers hone their craft. After rising through the ranks to become Head of Community Management at a digital marketing agency, Maire branched out into the world of freelance copywriting for clients across a variety of sectors.

In February, Maire joined Vardags as an in-house journalist. She is a self-confessed bibliophile with a particular penchant for American Gothic fiction.

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